Often people who meet someone on a dating site find it difficult to then stop using it. There is so much choice online, how can we be sure that we have met ‘The One’?
This is the case with one Evening Standard reader who wrote to the newspaper this week complaining that the guy she met online, who she now considers to be her boyfriend is still logging on to the site –http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/lifestyle/article-23744237-details/The+boyfriend+I+met+online+still+looks+at+dating+sites/article.do.
Resident ‘sexperts’ at the paper, Esther Walker and Nirpal Dhaliwal, warn her that some people choose to treat online dating sites like portals to an alternate universe in which they can behave like an arse, with no repercussions.
Nirpal, giving an enlightening male view of online dating, says,
“That you met this chap in the sexual bazaar of online dating only muddies the water further. When dating people via the internet always assume that they are juggling several people at once and are continuing their search even if you’ve seen them several times — after all, he might still have several months left on his subscription. Online dating provides a glut of sexual opportunities that most people don’t find elsewhere.”
This, I believe, is only of the biggest problems with online dating – guys see it as an easy way to get lots of no-strings s*x whilst women are using it to try to find a committed relationship. By dating through friends, or by using a matchmaking service, this confusing world where there are no real ‘rules of engagement’ is bypassed and a lot of time-wasting, disappointment and heartbreak is avoided.