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The boomerang generation

Apparently the recession has forced half a million adults between the ages of 35 and 44 to return to live with parents in 2009 due to debt, unemployment, property prices and rising numbers of relationships breaking up.

The bank Abbey, which carried out the research, says there are also around 440,000 between the ages of 25 to 34 who have been forced to return home.

The findings aren’t that surprising – being made redundant can have a huge knock-on effect on a person’s self-esteem and subsequently cause relationship problems. But living with your parents when single must make dating more difficult.

Most women look for financial stability in a potential partner, and men tend to look for independence. A first date admitting that they have had to move home due to money problems and/ or redundancy would be a big cross in many people’s eyes, especially those in their mid to late thirties who are most likely looking for a long-term relationship.

Let’s hope the economy bounces back in 2010 or there will be even more relationship break-ups – those of parents whose money runs out after their children move back home!

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Sex attackers using online dating sites

Are women really aware of the dangers lurking online when it comes to meeting complete strangers through dating sites? Alarming reports of sex attackers using these sites seem to be increasing, as perverts realise that the ability to hide behind fake online profiles gives them the perfect way to meet and abuse women who are putting themselves in a very vulnerable position.

GP (that gives confidence in the NHS!) Anil Tangotra was this week jailed for 11 years after it was found that he drugged and raped women he met through the online dating site Shaadi.com.

He had portrayed himself as a successful young bachelor working in the City to attract young women. In reality he was a 53 year old violent sex attacker.

After wining and dining his victims, who were successful Asian women looking for a long-term relationship, the doctor spiked their drinks and subjected them to brutal sex attacks.

It is easy to portray oneself as far more attractive, successful, socially-skilled, interesting and educated online and in most cases, apart from disappointment and wasted time, people lying on dating sites doesn’t cause any harm. But in a few there is real danger and incidents like this will hopefully remind women to take precautions when meeting total strangers on first dates such as telling your friends where you are going and asking them to call you after half an hour or so to provide a quick get-out excuse if you’re feeling uneasy.

Personality v looks

I watched the first episode of the new Living TV series ‘Dating in the Dark’ tonight. Six singles – three men and three women – each goes on a date with each of the opposite sex. In the dark. Not surprisingly, lots of physical contact ensues, as each tries to figure out whether they are likely to be attracted to their date.

Having split into three couples after the dates, based on who clicked with who and compatibility scores, each person then sees what the other person looks like. The moment the spotlight shines on one whilst the other either grimaces or beams with happiness, whilst in total blackness and therefore unseen, is quite entertaining. Each then has to decide whether to see their date again in the harsh light of day.

One girl really hits it off with one of the guys when they get to know each other based purely on personality but as soon as she sees he has ginger hair she goes off him completely and decides not to meet again, leaving the poor guy having to put on a brave face once he realises he has been stood-up. Painful.

She admits herself that her focus on physical appearance is perhaps why she keeps choosing men who are not right for her and finds herself single at the age of 31.

How many of us would have gone for our partner based on looks if we had not got to know what they are like as a person first? Perhaps dating in the dark is a good way of learning not to judge potential partners on physical appearance so much. Will it be the next dating trend? There is a restaurant near Farringdon where you eat in the dark (the waiters are partially or totally blind). It could be an interesting experience for those brave enough to arrange a first date there….